How To Catch A Cheating Lover » adultery http://how-to-catch-cheating.com Find out the truth about a cheating husband, cheating wife, cheating boyfriend or girlfriend... Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:19:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 en hourly 1 Do Not Commit Adultery http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/02/07/do-not-commit-adultery/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/02/07/do-not-commit-adultery/#comments Sun, 07 Feb 2010 08:40:02 +0000 Tiffany Powers trcb.us – You may think that God is preoccupied with the sin of adultery. There are so many admonitions against it in the Bible. This may be one of the reasons why people do not read the Bible. They do not want to be confronted with this and other truths. People who do not like to think about the 7th Commandment are some of the ones who do not want the Ten Commandments displayed in public.

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]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/23/marriage-divorce-remarriage-part-14-a-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/feed/ 0 Remarriage is Adultery!? http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/23/remarriage-is-adultery/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/23/remarriage-is-adultery/#comments Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:07:53 +0000 Tiffany Powers Jesus said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.”

Every now and then you find yourself tacking a Bible passage that just doesn’t lend itself to starting your sermon with a joke. Today’s Gospel reading is one such passage.

For divorce is no laughing matter, and of course I know that first-hand. Indeed, not only did I experience the divorce of my parents when I was a boy but I grew up to experience it all myself as an adult.

A wise counsellor once said to me that losing your partner is like losing a limb. Sometimes you have to lose a limb to save a body. Nonetheless, the experience is always devastating and soul-destroying and, in my experience, an inordinate amount of that devastation and soul-destruction tends to be meted out by religious people, speaking and acting on behalf of God.

In the case of my parents, I saw my mother more or less ex-communicated by her church – labelled, maligned and abandoned. And in the case of my father, who was an employee of the Diocese at the time, he lost his reputation, many of his friends, and his job.

In the breakdown of my own first marriage, thankfully I fared somewhat better than did of my parents. Even so, I lost a great number of friends – all good Christians of course – and, if you’ve ever wondered why, after almost 20 years in this parish I am still technically a casual so far as the Diocese is concerned, it is because I have been divorced and (worse still) have remarried!

If you work for other organisations, you might not necessarily get a lot of sympathy if your family falls apart, but you don’t normally get crucified, as happens so often in the church. And in truth, the most horrible treatment I have ever seen divorced and broken people subjected to has always been at the hands of solid members of the church!

Why is it that the most judgemental, self-righteous, intolerant and unsympathetic people always seem to be church members? Well, perhaps it all starts here, in this passage in Mark 10, in the apparently inflexible, intolerant and judgemental statements of Jesus Himself – that marriage is forever and that ‘whoever divorces his or her partner and marries another commits adultery against them’!

Could this really be Jesus, the friend of the weak and the marginalised? For it would appear at first glance that Jesus is far less concerned here with the weak than He is with the law – an approach that we would normally associate far more readily with Jesus’ fundamentalist opponents here (the Pharisees) than would with Him!

Yet Jesus, it seems, is laying down the law, and I can almost hear the chorus of Bible-believing fundamentalists crowding in behind this passage now:

‘Could Jesus have put it more plainly? Divorce is wrong. It is always wrong! Marriage is forever. There are no escape clauses, and it doesn’t matter what level of immorality or abuse or mutual destruction is taking place in the family home. For indeed, the person who divorces one partner and marries another is in fact not only guilty of violating the created order of relationships but is further guilty of adultery! Why? Well, obviously because the original marriage is still valid in the eyes of God! That’s why! Those whom God has joined together, let not man put asunder! Jesus has spoken!

And yet this all seems so uncharacteristic of Jesus – not only because He seems to be putting the boot in to people who are hurting, but because we are not used to seeing Jesus lay down the law in a way that puts the written code above human need.

Is there another way of understanding this dialogue? I think there is, and I think it begins with taking this dialogue in its context.

As we used to say in Bible college, ‘a text without a context is a pretext for a proof-text’. In other words, you can get the Bible to say anything you like if you take isolated verses like this out of context, and the first step we need to take if we are going to take these words of Jesus seriously is to look at them in the context in which they are given, which in this case means seeing them in the context of a dialogue where Jesus’ opponents are trying to trick Him.

Some Pharisees came to him and tried to trap him. “Tell us,” they asked, “does our Law allow a man to divorce his wife?” (Mark 10:2)

That’s how our scene opened – with the Pharisees trying to trap Jesus, and if we know the Gospels at all we know that this is not the first time. Indeed, like the wily coyote forever trying to catch the road-runner, the Pharisees were constantly trying to come up with new devices that they could use to ensnare Jesus (and like the coyote, most of their tricks blew up in their faces)!

The basic idea of their traps, at any rate, was always pretty much the same. They would try to pose a question to Jesus that He could not answer – a question that would cause Jesus trouble, whatever way He answered.

‘Should we pay taxes to Caesar?’ they asked, trying to trap Him. If Jesus answers ‘no’ to taxes, this will make him a law-breaker and a rebel in the eyes of the government, yet if He answers ‘yes’ and encourages the people to pay taxes to their hated Roman overlords He will make Himself unpopular.

‘Should we stone this woman caught in adultery?’, they ask Jesus. If He answers ‘no’ then He obviously doesn’t take the Bible seriously because the law regarding adulteresses is written in black and white, but if He does support the woman’s stoning, He will lose a lot of popular support.

Similarly here they try to trap Jesus by asking Him, “Does our law allow a man to divorce his wife?” though the trap in this case might not be as obvious to us now as it was to Jesus’ first century contemporaries.

For while, on the one hand, we can appreciate that for Jesus to say ‘no’ to divorce would have made him seem to be at odds with the law of Moses, what we probably don’t appreciate is that for Jesus to have said ‘yes’ to the divorce laws would have meant Him giving His support to an institution that was increasingly being used to abuse the vulnerable.

In terms of the standards set by Greece and Rome, it had apparently become quite the fashion in those days to marry and divorce on a whim!

As the great Roman philosopher and statesman, Seneca, put it, “women were married to be divorced and divorced to be married”. And it wasn’t only the men that carried on like this. While in Rome it was customary to identify the year by the reign of the Consul, apparently amongst the fashionable women of the time it was customary to name the years after your husbands.

Of course in the Hebrew society of the time the women were far less powerful, and while it was possible for a Jewish woman to own land and to have an income, in most cases when a man divorced his wife he would completely disenfranchise her.

Women and children didn’t count for much in Jesus’ community, and so when a man divorced his wife he would be taking away her property, her children, her family and her community. And so it doesn’t take much imagination to see how divorce could be used as a form of abuse, and how the threat of divorce could be used to intimidate an abused partner and keep her quietly subservient.

The law regarding divorce was there for a reason, as Jesus acknowledges, yet the very simplicity of the process as outlined in the Mosaic law, wherein all the divorcing partner had to do was to write a note to the woman he wanted to shed, made it highly accessible as a form of intimidation and violence.

Would we expect Jesus to support an institution of divorce that had become a tool in the hands of the powerful for the exploitation of the weak? Of course not, and so Jesus responds to the trick question of the Pharisees by reminding them that God designed men and women for relationships of mutual commitment and nurture, and not abuse. And He goes further and says that whoever uses the law to justify trading in his old wife for a new one commits adultery, regardless of whether or not he keeps to the letter of the law in the way he conducts his divorce.

Some years ago, when I was in Melbourne for the filming or a TV show, I had the privilege of meeting a rather interesting Iranian woman – a woman who had worked for some years in Tehran as a professional wife. This woman was not a sex-worker. She was a professional wife. And her clients were not sleeping around. They were having half-hour marriages.

In Tehran it is illegal for a man to sleep with a woman who is not his wife, but it is quite legal to have more than one wife. So men would come to this woman’s flat and marry her. Half an hour later they would issue her a certificate of divorce and go home, back to their first wife I suppose

These guys evidently thought they were very clever for they had worked out how to keep to God’s holy law and sleep with whoever they wanted to at the same time!

Their consciences were clear because they had abided by the letter of the law. They hadn’t slept around. They hadn’t committed adultery. They hadn’t dishonoured their original wife or the other woman. They had simply exploited a loophole in the word of God by enjoying an entirely legitimate half-hour marriage. And Jesus says, “what a load of rubbish!”

Adultery is adultery, regardless of whether you have a certificate of divorce to legitimate the shedding of your old wife or a certificate of a half-hour marriage to justify taking on a new one. The laws of marriage and divorce had been put in place for a reason – to protect people and preserve the peace, but that doesn’t mean you can exploit loopholes in those laws to maintain your sanctimonious moral self-righteousness while you abuse your partner.

Adultery is adultery, selfishness is selfishness and sin is sin. And while Jesus’ polemic here is not really aimed at hammering sinners or even adulterers as such, He is targeting those persons who would try to justify their selfish and abusive activities through keeping them within the literal letter of the law It’s all about protecting the vulnerable, and not using the letter of the law as an excuse for abuse.

Doris Mae Golberg wrote:

I have lost my husband, but I am not supposed to mourn.
I have lost my children; they don’t know to whom they belong.
I have lost my relatives; they do not approve.
I have lost his relatives; they blame me.
I have lost my friends; they don’t know how to act.
I feel I have lost my church; do they think I have sinned too much?
I am afraid of the future,
I am ashamed of the past,
I am confused about the present.
I am so alone,
I feel so lost.
God, please stay by me, You are all I have left.

And plenty of us have been there too, and all I really want to say here is that I believe we can be fully confident in these situations that the response of Jesus is not to put the boot in, despite the way some of His people might use passages such as today’s Gospel reading to justify their judgementalism.

No. Yesterday, today, forever, Jesus is the same – the friend of the weak, the protector of the vulnerable and the advocate of the sinner. Glory to His name!

Rev. David B. Smith

(the ‘Fighting Father’)

Parish priest, community worker,martial arts master, pro boxer, author, father of three

www.fatherdave.org

Fighting Father Dave

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]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/21/isupk-mary-didnt-commit-adultery-hebrew-israelites-wmv/feed/ 1 Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage Part 14 (d) Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/18/marriage-divorce-remarriage-part-14-d-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/18/marriage-divorce-remarriage-part-14-d-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/#comments Mon, 18 Jan 2010 08:05:10 +0000 Tiffany Powers http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/18/marriage-divorce-remarriage-part-14-d-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/ Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage Part 14 (d) Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery Sermon by: Rev. Stephen W. Wilcox www.marriagedivorce.com www.cadz.net

]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/18/marriage-divorce-remarriage-part-14-d-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/feed/ 0 THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY – SKIT http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/16/thou-shall-not-commit-adultery-skit/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/16/thou-shall-not-commit-adultery-skit/#comments Sat, 16 Jan 2010 19:24:13 +0000 Tiffany Powers http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/16/thou-shall-not-commit-adultery-skit/ SUBSCRIBE TO ME!!!!!——-I had a project for my theology class. We had to have a visual for one of the 10 commandments. IT WAS DIRECTED BY ME :D & i wrote the entire script. This was REHEARSED. We only rehearsed 2 times though. Thats why they crapped it up.

]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/16/thou-shall-not-commit-adultery-skit/feed/ 2 You Shall Not Commit Adultery http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/11/you-shall-not-commit-adultery/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/11/you-shall-not-commit-adultery/#comments Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:29:42 +0000 Tiffany Powers http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/11/you-shall-not-commit-adultery/ What is adultery and why is it bad? To see this message in it’s entirety click here www.harvest.org

]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/11/you-shall-not-commit-adultery/feed/ 0 Clearning House Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/10/clearning-house-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/10/clearning-house-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/#comments Sun, 10 Jan 2010 16:52:44 +0000 Tiffany Powers http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/10/clearning-house-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/ Thou Shall not commit adultery – Jesus said that if you look at a woman with lust for her you have committed adultery with her already in your heart. The internet has become the easy conduit for all kinds of adulterous activity. Simple solution – Turn the computer off

]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/10/clearning-house-thou-shall-not-commit-adultery/feed/ 5 IIPC (2006) 15/21 Husb & Wife: If wives commit adultery what husb. should do by Mohammad Shaikh http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/04/iipc-2006-1521-husb-wife-if-wives-commit-adultery-what-husb-should-do-by-mohammad-shaikh/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/04/iipc-2006-1521-husb-wife-if-wives-commit-adultery-what-husb-should-do-by-mohammad-shaikh/#comments Mon, 04 Jan 2010 14:16:17 +0000 Tiffany Powers http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/04/iipc-2006-1521-husb-wife-if-wives-commit-adultery-what-husb-should-do-by-mohammad-shaikh/ Husband and wife relationship A lecture that is a must see for any one who is married or is about to begin a matrimonial life. This lecture describes from the Quran, the role of a believing woman as a wife and believing man as a husband, what limitations they have to abide by, how to maintain a healthy marriage from physical and psychological point of view and ultimately how to handle or protect the relationship from slow disintegration.

]]> http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/04/iipc-2006-1521-husb-wife-if-wives-commit-adultery-what-husb-should-do-by-mohammad-shaikh/feed/ 15 Five Signs That your Husband is Committing Adultery http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/02/five-signs-that-your-husband-is-committing-adultery/ http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/02/five-signs-that-your-husband-is-committing-adultery/#comments Sat, 02 Jan 2010 11:26:15 +0000 Tiffany Powers http://how-to-catch-cheating.com/2010/01/02/five-signs-that-your-husband-is-committing-adultery/ Nothing is quite as devastating to a woman as realizing that her husband has been unfaithful. For most women it comes as a bitter and unexpected shock. If you believe that your marriage is built on a foundation of honesty and that your vows are unbreakable, it’s almost unbearable to consider that your husband has been intimate with another woman. Most women have a deep sense of intuition when it comes to their spouse and can automatically recognize small clues that something may be amiss.

There can be many signs that your husband is committing adultery. Although some are very obvious, others are more subtle. It’s important for a woman who suspects that there may be a third party involved in her relationship to recognize the signs of adultery and then take whatever measures she feels are necessary to either rebuild the broken trust or end the marriage.

There are five signs that your husband is committing adultery that every woman simply should never ignore. It’s important to remember that any noticeable change in your husband’s demeanor or behavior may mean he’s seeking out companionship elsewhere.

The first sign that many women notice is that their husband suddenly stops wearing his wedding ring. He may suggest that he simply forgets to put it on or he may say he misplaced it. If he’s always worn it in the past, and that abruptly changes, there’s something else at work there.

Another of the obvious signs that your husband is committing adultery is his work schedule changes. If a man has always worked a 9-to-5 day and now says he needs to work late often, that’s not a good sign. A man who is being unfaithful may also out of the blue need to attend out of town conferences. Unless he’s the recipient of a new position at work, there’s likely a woman involved.

Hiding a credit card or checking account is another clue that an affair may be taking place. Many couples combine their financial resources and have joint accounts. If you notice an unfamiliar credit card in your husband’s wallet, this is cause for suspicion. Most men who have always been forthcoming about money, and then suddenly want their own account or card, may be keeping secrets.

The fourth sign that your husband is committing adultery is a little harder to detect. If your husband takes the family car to work, take note if he suddenly decides to clean it. Many men who are having an affair will take their mistress out for dates in the family car. If your husband cleans the car and removes all toys, books, lipsticks or make-up belonging to your or your children that’s a unspoken signal that he doesn’t want someone to know he has a family.

The last and often most telling sign that your husband isn’t being faithful will be that he becomes less talkative and seems lost in thought. Many men feel a strong sense of guilt when they have wandered outside the marriage for intimacy. Although you can ask him what’s on his mind, don’t be at all surprised if he says it’s nothing at all.

It a hard pill to swallow when you recognize the signs that your husband is committing adultery. As difficult as it is though, it’s important to get to the bottom of the matter to confirm your suspicions. Once you’ve done that, you’ll be ready to make a decision on what is best for you.

It’s often hard to know whether your husband is indeed committing adultery. Many men can have a long term affair without anyone suspecting a thing. In fact, seventy percent of married women have no idea when their husband is having an affair. For telltale signs of a cheating husband, and how to get irrefutable and undeniable proof of the affair within moments visit this helpful site.

Although the aftermath of finding out whether or not your husband is cheating can be devastating, it?s much better to know. You owe it to yourself and your children to know the truth.

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