It’s completely normal to be curious and actually very important to be sure. This can be a very serious matter that requires plenty of precaution. Approach this with care.

You should be aware that the internet is growing at such a rapid pace that sites specifically dedicated to helping married couples land an outside affair are springing up. This is shocking but true.

The bad thing about this for couples is that this gives their partner far more options to find something outside of their relationships if they so wish. Imagine what could be happening over cyberspace behind close doors or at his or her work.

I am going to reveal to you a few sites that people will frequent when trying to cheat on the internet.

>> Craigslist Personals
>> Myspace Dating
>> AdultFriendFinder

That’s only the tip of the iceberg….

After extensive undercover research and helping many, many clients … one underground infidelity expert shows that these have been where a lot of not-so-innocent flirting takes place.

So I genuinely believe that anyone who has a hint of suspicion in this matter be aware of this potential activity. However, with this in mind, approach it extremely lightly because you don’t want to hurt the relationship in any way.

If you can check their email account, it will be wise to do a message history search for those sites to see if there are messages coming from those places. For example, Gmail always has these messages archived or saved even if he deletes them.

Another one of the easiest ways to recognize a red flag is to mention a story about how people use these sites for meeting. It can be some interesting article or news about Craigslist or Myspace for example. Just something indirect is totally fine.

An easy-to-follow way would be to search for bizarre Myspace stories and find something that would be interesting to mention. There are so many just sitting on the internet waiting for you to find. I’d focus on one where it involves relationships or infidelity so it becomes a subconscious reminder.

Watch closely for any hint or discomfort that appears as this conversation comes up. If you know your partner on an intimate level, you should have a finger on what defines uncomfortable body language.

Do you have a feeling in your gut that’s something wrong in your relationship? That maybe, just maybe, your partner’s being unfaithful? If you do, then you have a decision to make and several options to choose from.

First, think about how sure you are of their infidelity. If you aren’t sure at all, then option 1 – confronting them right now, without wasting any time – is completely out of the question. Doing so could ruin the relationship because it’d highlight, rightly or wrongly, that you don’t trust your partner.

The second option: ignore your suspicions, assume they’re unfounded and that they always will be, that nothing’s going on, and continue as normal. This option’s one many people take, either to avoid being confronted with an ugly truth – that their lover’s doing some extra ‘loving’ behind their backs – or because they fear they’re being unfair to their partners by being suspicious of them and doubtful of their devotedness.

Third option: do something to help eradicate your suspicions – find out either way what’s going on, if your partner’s cheating on you or if they’re being faithful.

Okay, let’s assume option three is the one for you. You want to find out the truth and don’t want to simply ignore your gut instinct and continue on as normal. What methods of investigation, ways of discovering the facts, are there at your disposal?

1. The simplest way (often considered the first step), and something you might have already begun doing, is looking for obvious signs of potential betrayal. Your partner smells of a fragrance, perfume or after-shave you don’t recognize. They’ve been leaving the house for work half an hour earlier than they’ve ever done before, for no apparent reason. They don’t seem to enjoy sex with you as they used to, or choose to avoid it completely whenever they can. Keep an eye out for these surface signs of potential infidelity – in a way, looking for them and recording them in your mind or on paper can be considered harmless, it’s free information there to be noticed…if only you’ll look.

2. After the obvious potential signs of cheating dry up, or when you feel you’re at a dead end looking for and analyzing them, more forthright, headstrong action may be called for. Some people, at this point, reach straight for the Yellow Pages, thumbing right to the private investigator section. That’s one option, sure, but there are things you can do yourself before calling in a third party. First, you could try setting a trap. It may sound a little primeval, like catching a wild animal, but really it’s more like a test. These tests can take many forms. For example, arrange a “trip,” say you’re going away for a couple days to visit your folks, or friends, and use that time to keep track of some of the things your partner does. You don’t necessarily need to sit outside in the car with a pair of binoculars 24/7, just pay attention to key times when your partner would – if you were home – do certain things, like leave the house for work, come home, etc. You’d be surprised how many cheaters embrace these rare, private opportunities to further their affairs and indulge in some extra-marital ‘relations’.

There are also subtler ways of testing your partner’s fidelity and faithfulness. One of them’s called the ‘gossip’ test. It involves bringing up the topic of cheating using a fictional third party, such as one of your work colleagues or friends. Mention, without hinting at your suspicion of them in the slightest, that your friend (or whoever you’ve chosen to use for this test) confided in you that they’re cheating on their partner. Most people are, to some degree or another – even if it’s just to maintain conversation – interested in a little gossip, especially if it involves a subject as juicy as infidelity. But when cheaters hear the topic of cheating brought up, they tend to silently panic – a rush of nerves sweeps their consciousness. Have they been rumbled? Is this a test? Am I reacting like a non-cheater would to this kind of chat? Keep a close watch on how YOUR partner reacts…it could provide a telling insight into their current state of mind, how they feel about cheating, and whether or not – when you boil it right down – you can trust them to not cheat on you.

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